Things i've larned from failed relationships.

Many times when a relationship ends, one of the only things that provide any sort of solace at all is the fact that, through the course of the courtship, you’ve learned things that contributed to it not ultimately working out—and that you can use this newfound knowledge to improve your next relationship. (This is, of course, considering you ever recover enough to pursue another romantic interest and stop sobbing on the couch while you chug Johnnie Walker and listen to Elliott Smith.)

Like, for example, after my last relationship imploded, I learned that you can’t be a pushover if you really want a relationship to work. You may think it's a good idea to fawn all over someone and pretty much let them have their way without your ever doing or even saying anything about it, but if you do that, eventually one of two things will happen: (1) They’ll grow tired not being challenged and decide to move on without you, or (2) You’ll snap and call things off yourself.
But that's just my experience...so I asked a bunch of guys to tell us what they’ve learned from the failings of past relationships.
1. “I learned to never, ever say something like, ‘I’d probably be better off without you’ to someone you love. It won’t end well.”—Nathaniel W.

2. “You have to pick your fights. My ex and I were so, so, so stubborn about pretty much everything—probably especially about the littler things, and after a while that broke us, I think. When we weren’t arguing about something, it was like we were walking on egg shells trying not to say or do the thing that would launch us into the next fight. I definitely learned that while you’re never going to always agree with the person you’re with, you should really make an effort to only fight over things when they really matter. If you take a step back and really think about things before you start screaming, I think it’ll help.” —Casey F.

5 Ways To Prepare Yourself For Relationship.

Let's face it, everyone wants to find someone special. We all want to share our magical journeys with someone we love, honor, and respect.
I don't know about you, but it seems lately everyone I know is either getting engaged, married, or about to have children. Being a recently-single individual, it can be challenging at times. Personally, I believe there is more than one Mr. or Ms. Right out there for us, which increases the odds tenfold to find that someone special.

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Many who are single want to find someone special. But are they prepared? Preparing for love is an incredibly arduous journey of self-discovery, character building, and awareness. It is definitely the road less traveled, but so worthwhile in the end.
Here are five ways to prepare for finding one of the loves of your life;

1. Re-Learn Yourself
Have an honest conversation with yourself about your past relationships and your feelings toward love. Know what type of persons attract you and why. Are they naughty or nice? Or if they make you think twice?
Learning your patterns and behaviors within relationships is of vital importance. You must recognize your role(s), ground yourself in reality, and use this awareness when stepping forward into the unknown. Otherwise, you will fall into the same old patterns, continue to make the same old choices, and yield the same old results.
That's why awareness is key. This time, it will be different. Just be conscious of who you are.

2. Elevate the Space
Drama no more! That will be your new meditation, or positive self-talk.

3 PRINCIPLES OF DATING READINESS.

For many teens and youths of today's century, loving, dating, break-up and all sort has been the normal. From wanting a feeling of care and affection to wanting to be secure and so on. Many still did not know the reason and purpose of dating. That's why many felt heartbroken after months or years of commitment to the wrong thing.

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One of my adored writer and model, Late Myles Munroe, in his book "WAITING AND DATING" highlighted three principles to stand upon when ready for a dating which you envisage will lead to marriage.

1. BE AWARE OF THE BENEFITS AND DANGER:
Dating should be an opportunity to know someone the more and be closer to them.
Many never thought of the dangers involved in going into an emotional commitment to someone before actually starting. As much as there there are benefits of going into the dating zone, there are dangers to watch out for too.
Did you know if you are ready psychologically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally? Are you ready to be committed and accept the person for who they are?
The dangerous part of it is now getting committed too much and it doesn't work out at the long run. Many have turned themselves into a victim of 5years dating and they felt like, they can never love again.
No, there is still time and chance to love again.

Love, Dating and Genotype(did you know your status)?

In time past, when we didnt actually give more concern to doing blood test, sugar test, fertility test, h.i.v virus test, e.t.c before getting married, our grandfathers has fed us with lies of ABIKU, which we received like it does exist. 'ABIKU', as they are popularly called in yoruba land, are children born and dies not up to a ripe age due to constant sickness.

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 This has come as a result of the combination of the wrong blood genotype from the father and mother, bringing about the production of an SS, which they call ABIKU.

As advanced as technology is today, such shouldnt be the norm of the day anymore. Yet still, many learned youths of today are making the mistake. We should be the one to make the campaign to the illiterates, not we being the victim. As i could still recall, in our biology class, that AA is the general controller of all (i.e, they can mate with any other genotype). in this case, the AS, SS and the discovery of AC and SC, are all limited to their option of choosing a life partner.

In one of my previous article, "LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH", this are part of the things to be considered before actually saying "YES, I DO" to your partner. No matter how much the love, the future of the unborn kids and your finances should be given more priority.

What your Thumb reveals about your LOVE LIFE!!!

A.The first half of thumb is longer than the second one:

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 You are a faithful and passionate. You are a hard-working person who will eventually achieve his goal, and learn most of the things be trial and error. When you fall in love you will be totally faithful, you are head over heels for him/her but you have a tendency to be a little overpowering and you can get obsessive, be careful you might scare him/her away.

 B. The first half and the second half of thumb are the same length:

 You like to plan everything and carry them out in a specific approach, which makes you can achieve your goals. You are calm and composed, no matter what happens

What your nail shape says about YOU!

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1. Vertically long.
You’re a mild-tempered romanticist. It is likely that your right brain is more well-developed, and you’re the highly imaginative type. You are meticulous and creative, but you tend to get overwhelmed by the surrounding atmosphere and might easily be deceived, so you might want to be a little more cautious and alert. When it comes to dealing with the logical left-brained type, you might find it difficult to understand each other and may even end up in conflict.

2. Broad sideways
You’re a short-tempered theorist It is likely that your left brain is more well-developed, and you’re the highly eloquent type. You clearly verbalize what your think, and that gives people an impression that you’re straightforward and clear-cut. However, you tend to be impatient and short-tempered, so it might be a good idea to practice a little self-restraint at times. You can’t really come to terms with the emotional right-brained types who listen to their hearts more than their heads.

3. Rounded
You’re a laid-back pacifist You’re the happy-go-lucky type who does things at your own pace. You’re very sociable, and whenever the people around you get into an argument, you’re always the first one to step in as a mediator. Your bright personality is well-liked by many, but you might give others an impression that you’re an easy person, so keep yourself in check so that your friends won’t lose their trust in you. In comparison to other types, you get along relatively well with all types.

Things I've Learnt About Love.

No matter your status—single, dating, engaged, or married—relationships take work. And whether they end with tears or last until forever may depend upon countless factors, but your own actions, words, and thoughts undoubtedly play a role.

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One thing that'll give you an advantage in the game of love? Soaking up all the wisdom you can from friends, researchers, matchmakers, and more. Here, i've distilled it down to the very best advice i have learned. Regardless of your personal situation, this words may help you uncover the key to long-lasting happiness.

1. Do or say something daily to show your appreciation.

"Saying and doing small, simple expressions of gratitude every day yields big rewards. When people feel recognized as special and appreciated, they're happier in that relationship and more motivated to make the relationship better and stronger. And when I say simple, I really mean it. Make small gestures that show you're paying attention: Hug, kiss, hold hands, buy a small gift, send a card, fix a favorite dessert, put gas in the car, or tell your partner, 'You're sexy,' 'You're the best dad,' or simply say 'Thank you for being so wonderful.'"

2. Realize every relationship has value, regardless of how long it lasts. 

"There’s no such thing as a failed romance/love. Relationships simply evolve into what they were always mean to be. It’s best to not try to make something that is meant to be seasonal or temporary into a lifelong relationship. Let go and enjoy the journey."

5 Good Things To Get Your Man This Season!

 We won't settle for some mindless pre-packed gift you can find in any department store. In fact, there are gifts that have moved from the totally acceptable to the straight-up eye roll-inducing and we're tired of getting them. So, if you'd like to show the guy, any guy, in your life that you put in the extra effort this season, steer clear of these ten items.
 1. Wallets
Why We Hate It:A wallet is an accessory a man will use every single day and for years to come. So while that criteria makes it seem like it would make for an ideal gift option, the fact is, it's too personal and most guys would rather pick one out for themselves.
What You Should Buy Instead:confirm Leather Bracelet, #3,000.00.

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 2. DVD purse

Why We Hate It: Ten years ago, this was an epic gift. These days, most men don't even own DVD players, considering the Internet is the Internet and all.
What You Should Buy Instead:A 64G flash drive will be good.


3. Books you've read 
Why We Hate It: Wanna guarantee a man never reads a book, and avoids you for months? Give them one you read and say, "I loved this book and you will too. Let me know when you've read it so we can talk about it!"
What You Should Buy Instead: an intresting mp3 or mp4 format of a message will be good. You both can even enjoy it together, you know!

7 signs He Is Your Potential Husband!

1.He always brags about you:

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 If you get a promotion at work or even just win concert tickets, he can't resist telling everyone you know before you even think to mention it. Because he's your biggest fan (arguably next to your mom) 

2. He doesn't try to change you:

He knows you're messier than him, that you always need a pet cat, and can't cook to save your life, and all of that is all right by him. 

3. You can cry in front of him without feeling embarrassed:

He knows when to worry and when you're just caught up in a scene of a movie.

One thing that can stop your man from cheating.

Yes! We all believe its not all men or ladies that does so. Some married couples, due to frustration and incessant challenge on teir cheating husband and all to no avail, they had to seat back and just watch.

But i believe there should be this one thing that could be done to curb the rate of infidelity in all relationship(be it dating or married).

A popular music star posted on his IG page, and i quote:

The Underrated Quality in the Dating World

Based on a quick glance at magazine covers, it seems like there are certain qualities everyone's looking for in a mate. Nail the perfect combo of good looks, quick wit, and career success and you've got the perfect formula for attracting a partner, right?
Well, it's partly true: Research shows these aspects (physical appearance, humor, and ambition) are certainly attractive to potential romantic partners. But it turns out, a bit of benevolence may be what your dating game’s missing. One large-scale study found that more than 10,000 men and women from around the globe consider kindness—yes, kindness—to be one of the most important qualities in a romantic partner.
Here’s why your reflection, your paycheck, and where you stand in the social pecking order can’t hold a candle to the quality of your character.

Why Kindness Matters Most

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Numerous studies corroborate the appeal of kindness. Even small gestures, such as giving a stranger a flower, lending a close friend an ear, or simply doing someone a favor (like carrying their groceries), can enhance our likeability and increase others’ willingness to commit to us.

7 TYPES OF MEN YOU SHOULD THINK TWICE BEFORE DATING.

We all want to find a great partner, so why do so many of us end up dating not-so-good ones along the way? No need to blame yourself: Hindsight may be 20/20, but spotting someone with baggage and issues isn't always easy in the moment. And it's especially not easy when he's pulling out all of his charms over a glass (or several glasses) of wine at a swanky local bar. We talked to family therapist Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, and Carlen Costa, Ph.D, a sexologist and therapist in Toronto, Canada, to find out which guys you should strongly consider ruling out from the get go. Here are the seven types to watch for:

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1. Just Out of a Relationship Guy: He's on the market again, but that doesn't necessarily mean he's ready—especially if he's the one who's been dumped. "Usually when people jump into the next relationship, they haven't done the work to grow themselves from that space, [or] to ready themselves for the next relationship," says Pharaon. "You want to make sure that person has some time in between the previous relationship to actually be a human."

2. Gets Really Angry Really Quickly Guy: When a guy's reactions are consistently overboard for what's appropriate, it's a big red flag. "I think most of us have an idea of what would be an appropriate response to something and of course we all get angry from time to time, but people who get super angry, you want to stay away from that," Pharaon says

How to handle Emotions in romance and relationship!

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Love is the most beautiful feeling that god has gifted to mankind. Those people who get someone whom they love and also get the reciprocation of love are the luckiest people. Life becomes beautiful in the companionship of such a loving partner. But the path of love is not always smooth and romantic.

A romantic relationship has its share of challenges that one has to go through. Since this directly concerns with the emotions and deep personal feelings, it is important that the person manages his emotions well and doesn't lost the perspective of things in the flow of emotions. Someone loves you for support, care and strength , so you need to be emotionally stable and capable of providing support to the person for a strong relationship.

Making Your Relationship Work.

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"Commitment" is considered to be a very important and mature aspect of a man woman relationship. It is considered to be the culmination of a love relationship between two individuals which signifies that the people involved in the relationship love, sacrifice, understand and are ready to spend their whole life with each other. Commitment basically means a decision making procedure in a person's life where he/she chooses the person he/she loves most as a life partner. Commitment needs to be displayed by both the individuals to make any sense of the word. The benefits of a committed relationship are many as it gives your life stability, resilience and belief making it healthy and beautiful.

Myths about Love and Romance.

Romance with all its charm, fascination and longing for companionship, has its own shares of myths and realities. Each of us may vary with regard to the conceptualized definition of love and romance; but as one of the primeval human emotions; love which in turn gives way to romance or adventure is bound by certain age old myths which despite their oft repeated recurrence have little or no semblance of truth.

• True love may lead you to accept your partner just the way he or she actually is. But to say that love or romance is completely blind may turn out to be mythical. In case your partner is endowed with a disagreeable trait, it may not be all that colorful from the point of view of romance and relationship.

The Crazy Cycle.

What is the Crazy Cycle?

Craziness is when we keep doing the same thing — again and again — with the same ill effect. Marital craziness is when we do the same thing — over and over — with the same negative results. I call it the Crazy Cycle. When hurt and frustrated, we continue reacting in negative ways to motivate our spouse to be positive. Can you believe it? That's like flipping broken light switches for 30 minutes.

All who are married go through this cycle. The topics change, and the intensity varies, but the crazy cycle continues. One day the argument may be about a dinner choice, the next day the argument may be about child-rearing methods. Next month, it's about a marriage book and then about the lack of money.
This happens among good willed people. Sadly, some think they have a horrible marriage because of this craziness. Truth is, they are inches away from making an adjustment that can set them in a whole new and positive course, only if they are ready to stop the craziness.

Stopping the Crazy Cycle

The key is to see underneath this "craziness," to the heart of a spouse. Making love feel like, its new even after long time marriage.
Based on Ephesians 5:33, I discovered why a husband and wife react the way they do. We read, "each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband" (NIV).

Because a wife needs love, a husband would be wise to assume his wife's negative reaction is rooted in her feeling unloved. On the other hand, because a husband needs respect, a wife would be prudent to assume her husband's negative reaction is rooted in his feeling disrespected.

Is it time for you to apply God’s truth? It takes work, but it works. It may not be fair, but God’s truth is revealed to people in unfair situations. A respectful or loving demeanor prevents a wife or husband from repeatedly flipping broken light switches.

God bless your home!!!

Love and Respect: A Royal Marriage

There is something intriguing about royalty – and a royal marriage. It's as if something within all of us longs to be royal.  Did you know that God says we are royalty? "You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light" (1 Peter 2:9).
God has put in the heart of every little girl to be a princess. She dresses up, talks about it, even dreams about it. As a woman, she wants to be first in the heart of her prince. She wants to be loved and treasured like a princess.

A little boy wants to be the hero, defending the fort and saving others from danger. As a man, he wants to be the prince, the hero that his princess admires and respects. He is designed by God to be a man of honor, one who is responsible to provide and care for his princess.
The wedding ceremony is a great picture of the prince and the princess dynamic – the love and respect is evident, and it is beautiful. But what often happens in that first year is that he isn't as loving as she expected or needed him to be. And she often stops treating her prince with the respect that he needs. She needs to be loved, to be his princess; he needs to be respected, to be her prince. When this dynamic breaks down, the relationship gets crazy.

Benevolent Goodwill

In a safe and secure kingdom (even when that kingdom is a home), its people thrive. Effective kingdom leaders demonstrate benevolent goodwill to the people. In marriage, the importance of goodwill is just as important.

IMPORTANT ADVICE TO THE LADIES.

Since I couldn't come up with something fast this morning, thought giving advice to those who will care for it will be just perfect.

Below are my factual and real advice to the ladies that care for it;

1. Note that there are many guys out there who just want to
use and dump you. Don't just accept a guy because he is a
fine boy. I know that some of you girls easily fall for handsome
guys. The devil is also handsome. So be careful.


2. I also know that you ladies can easily be deceived with sweet
words and sweet lies. You ought to be wise. Do not allow
sweet words move you. Don't believe a guy's sweet words until
he proves it to you beyond reasonable doubt.

How Important Is Trust? (story)

Jessica and Randy have been lovers for 6 years. Jessica was studying college while Randy was working on a construction site. When Jessica graduated, they agreed to get married and start a new life together. When Jessica delivered a baby, it gives them new hope for a better and happier family.

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After 2 years of being parents, Randy was assigned and went to another country for his work and Jessica was left behind with their 2 year old son. Despite the distance, they talked every night on Skype like they are not too far with each other and it was a routine. But after 8 months of not being together, Randy was confused why Jessica can only go online about once or twice a week. She always says she was busy, on her work, with the chores or even with their son, but because of his love and trust of his wife, he understood.
When Randy went home after 14 months, he wondered why his wife always on a rush saying she has lots of things to do. Randy starts to doubt Jessica, so he followed her to her office only to find out she wasn’t there. He starts calling and there’s no answer and became worried. He went to Jessica’s family to inform them that Jessica is missing and they immediately took a move to find Jessica but only to find out that Jessica tried to move out and leave  her family and be with her new guy. Randy’s trust shattered, and there was no turning back. They were lost in a sea of suspicion and secrecy.

5 Traits to Check for Before You Marry Her.

1. Mature and Confident. 
There is nothing hotter than a woman who is confident and commands attention. A woman who is in control of her emotions but is dedicated, puts her heart in whatever she does. She should know how to make time for you and your future family despite her busy schedule. Someone who isn’t insecure and isn’t jealous all the time. A man is willing to work hard for their woman but it would be a bother if you know she’ll be up in your face every time you work with other women or spend a few extra hours in the office. 


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2. A Heart To Come Home To.
After a long tiring day of work you would need some comfort to alleviate all of that stress. Someone you can be with to surely brighten up your day and would always lend  the support/strength you need. As the cliché goes, “Home is where the heart is.”

6 Early warning signs of an abusive relationship.

It feels good to love and to be loved. However, no matter how good it feels, falling in love can also cause you so much pain. Even if you find the right person, relationships have ups and downs. After all, sacrifices and sufferings can sometimes lead to stronger, better relationships. However, there’s a thin line between these sacrifices and abusive relationships.

When you are madly, deeply, in love, you fail to see your partners’ bad traits. Or even if you do,  sometimes, you just accept them. It can start with a small fight and then it will lead to bigger fights with vulgar and insulting words. The next thing you know, you ended up as a human punching bag!

See, you won’t be abused if you won’t let other people abuse you. How to find out if your sweet, romantic relationship will end up being an abusive one? Check these early warning signs of an abusive relationship:

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1. If he disrespects his exes and even, you..!
A true gentleman will never talk against or even about his past relationships. He has this concept of “past is past” and won’t let it affect his present relationship. Of course, a true gentleman will not disrespect his partner or any other person!
Well, yeah, I know.. Not everyone is a true gentleman. But a man who disrespects his exes, you, or even other women, has a huge tendency of becoming an abuser.

2. Your partner is jealous, possessive, and self centered.
So it’s all about him huh? What he feels? What he sees? What he does? No! It shouldn’t be that way. A relationship is composed of two individuals – that means you and him! He should always include you in the equation and consider your feelings, too.
And let me clear this out, if your partner is possessive, that doesn’t mean he loves you a lot. In fact, if he loves you that much, he should trust you.

CLEARS SIGNS YOU ARE IN LOVE.

1. You dare not even look at the person
Love is really hard to hide, so when the object of your love walks into a room, you might look the other side for fear you might let him see how you feel. You know that if he comes to talk to you, you are likely to blush or say sometime foolish. Most the shy type uses this method.

2. You are thinking about the person most of the time

Another one of clear signs of falling in love is that you are thinking about him all the time. This one will come as no surprise to anyone who has been in love before, but you will have this person on your mind twenty four hours a day. The chances are that you spend quite a lot of time thinking about him, when you should be getting in with something else. So don’t be surprised if your friends and work colleagues know full well that you are in love, long before you realise it.

Understanding "FIRST LOVES"

First loves are wonderful, exciting, passionate and confusing. Whether or not they last, first loves have a sweetness all their own.

The Bloom of Youth

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For many of us, first love happens when we're in our teens. We've only just discovered these feelings, and we're thrilled by the idea of romance. Sex is something brand new, too, waiting to be explored. It seems that the whole world is ahead of us.
Young love is about passion, energy, even rebellion-think Romeo and Juliet. Sometimes, we don't even know the other person very well: we're both caught up in the idea of being in love. The luckiest couples do become fast friends as well as lovers. Many a happy marriage began with a young first love.

Older First Loves

Not everyone meets their first love when they're young, though. If you've never felt that rush of passion, don't worry. It can take years, even most of a lifetime, to connect with the person who will become your first love. There are stories of people in their 70's falling in love-real, true love-for the very first time.

You Dont Need A Reason To end A Relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship that wasn't quite right, but there was no one major thing wrong? So, perhaps, you held on and stayed with that person, only to end it later?

As I read online, They've been discussing the idea of breakup guilt on a thread titled "PSA: You can break up with someone for any reason, or for no reason at all. You don't have to have a 'good reason' to end a relationship."

"I've seen SO many ladies torturing themselves for years in unhappy relationships because they don't have a 'good reason' to leave," writes a user, MissPredicament, who started the thread. "There is value in sticking it out in a relationship, in trying to make it work...until it becomes a horrible endurance exercise in tolerating awfulness. I wish someone had told me when I was much younger that I didn't have to have an airtight legal case for a breakup—all I had to have was a desire to no longer be in that relationship. I would have saved myself a lot of time."

Here's what some other responders had to say:
"Not having a reason to stay is a good reason to leave." —AnxiousReader
"I wasted most of my 20s being absolutely miserable in a relationship. When I finally got the courage to end it I cursed myself for not doing it sooner." —Inspector
"I have been feeling like this for about 1.5 years. Waiting for someone to 'mess up' or for the 'right time' is not the way to go. Unfortunately, I was the one who 'messed up' and cheated." —ToiletMeadows
"I was dating a girl for nearly a year. Towards the end I realized it was just not what I wanted. Then her dog died. Can't break up with her when she's that upset, right? Then the dog had to be put down. Well, don't be an asshole and dump a girl right after her beloved dog goes to doggy heaven....right? Then she simultaneously dislocates both shoulders (no...really....I'm not making this up. She had excess collagen that caused issues with ligaments). Can't dump a girl when she's post-op and doped up right? Well...I did." —hexpirate
"I broke up with a guy I was in a relationship with for 2 years. He asked me why but I couldn't come up with a proper response (I didn't think "we grew apart" was a good enough reason) so we tried working things out.We stayed together for few more months but it was the worst. At first it was OK, but after a while it was the same thing that made me want to break up with him in the first place. I dreaded having to go see him, ignored his calls, etc. I finally decided that acting like nothing was wrong wasn't fair for him and made a clean break." —mochacafe
"As someone on the other side of this. Yes 'we grew apart' is a perfectly acceptable reason." —possiblylefthanded

Have you ever felt breakup guilt? How many of you were involved a breakup when nothing was specifically wrong with the relationship?

3 things lasting relationships have in common.

The three main ingredients for a lasting relationship may surprise you because they’re not love, sex or money...

 

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If couples want to last the 50 years to celebrate their golden anniversary, they need to bring more pragmatic stuff to the relationship than just the sparkly, shiny feeling of being in love. So what are two of the main ingredients in the recipe for everlasting togetherness?
The answer is commitment and space, according to two studies. These attributes may not be romantic or earth-moving, but experts say that mixed with generous dollops of respect, caring and affection, they can help your relationship shuffle happily into the twilight years.

1. A commitment to go all the way

The median age for divorce in the world has been rising steadily for two decades and is now 41.3 years for women and 44.2 for men. A third divorces occur in marriages of 20 years or more at a stage in life when many would feel the real hard work of raising kids, establishing careers and paying off bills could be behind them.
So why are these long relationships busting

Whats The Deal With Love At First Sight?

The concept of love at first sight appears in so many nollywood films that you would think most people felt that same way when they first met their partner or spouse. Romantic comedies and dramas portray magical moments where two character’s eyes lock for the first time and life is never the same. Sound familiar? Probably not!
We are a culture that thrives on music, television shows and stories with plots like the one described above. We love romance. After all, it is entertaining and to love and be loved is what we all want.

  The problem, though, is that love at first sight stories and fairytale endings create unrealistic expectations about our real relationships. Sometimes we forget that relationships actually take work and that your partner does not come into your life to fix you.

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Although there is scientific proof of love at first sight (and many couples can vouch for it), whether or not you believe in love at first sight may be one of the factors keeping you single. If you rigidly believe that you will experience love at first sight with the man or woman you will spend your life with, it is likely that you have missed out on other amazing partners because you didn’t experience that grand feeling you long for during an initial meeting. If you believe that magic will occur when you first see him or her, you are likely to dismiss anyone who you are not completely gaga over or anyone who doesn’t look like the person you envision yourself with.

Another potential issue with the love at first sight concept is that it might make you believe that you are destined to be with anyone who ignites a spark in you, causing you to downplay any red flags, areas of concern or negative signals when you actually get to know this new person.

5 Things to Know Before You Enter a Relationship.

1. Know your worth.

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Far too often we stay in relationships that are less than gratifying because we don’t value ourselves. A fundamental change occurs once you realize what your worth and what you deserve from a partner. Once you start believing that you deserve something deeply fulfilling, you will never settle for anything less.Any effort to try and cheapen your value will be futile. The tide will have changed. Not only will you start respecting yourself, others will recognize this and respect you in return.

2. Know how to love with an open heart.

This is particularly difficult for me because I am so protective of my heart. It’s a defense mechanism that served me as a child, but it has hindered my ability to get close to people as an adult in recent time.Loving with an open heart means embracing vulnerability.

Knowing your Love Language.

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In as much as we are all rational being, we all have differences, which should be used for the betterment of human nature, not to envy or destroy the nature. Ranging from gifts to sweet words, hugs and the likes, serving some other people is enough to make them love you.

Knowing our love language, not only helps to understand who we are but to bring understanding of who our partner is to us. Below are 5 highlighted love languages to look out for in anyone we come in contact with, be it a friend or crush.

1. PHYSICAL TOUCH: diversity in choices is what makes the world go round. Touching some people irritates them as much as it gives the feeling of comfort and romance to some others. Hugging, simple kissing, holding of hands, e.t.c is enough statement to bring some closer to you. Mind you, to satisfy the other party showing all this, there is a need to give his/her love language too. A little work is just required to know what the person really wants.

7 signs that makes her think its over

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Women are super sensitive when it comes to their relationship and hence, they take note of very simple and subtle things men would otherwise not pay attention to. This are not confirmations thou, but it might be a pointer. Despite the fact that you don’t indulge in obvious things such as cheating, forgetting an anniversary date and not respecting her enough, there are some things that you may do that she takes as signs that you’re drawing away from her.

Take a look at 7 Things you may be doing that may make you become single sooner than you think.

1. You Don’t Maintain Eye Contact
Women naturally believe that when men maintain eye contact with them, there is a form of intimacy and connection. This doesn’t mean you have