You Dont Need A Reason To end A Relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship that wasn't quite right, but there was no one major thing wrong? So, perhaps, you held on and stayed with that person, only to end it later?
As I read online, They've been discussing the idea of breakup guilt on a thread titled "PSA: You can break up with someone for any reason, or for no reason at all. You don't have to have a 'good reason' to end a relationship."
"I've seen SO many ladies torturing themselves for years in unhappy relationships because they don't have a 'good reason' to leave," writes a user, MissPredicament, who started the thread. "There is value in sticking it out in a relationship, in trying to make it work...until it becomes a horrible endurance exercise in tolerating awfulness. I wish someone had told me when I was much younger that I didn't have to have an airtight legal case for a breakup—all I had to have was a desire to no longer be in that relationship. I would have saved myself a lot of time."

Here's what some other responders had to say:
"Not having a reason to stay is a good reason to leave." —AnxiousReader
"I wasted most of my 20s being absolutely miserable in a relationship. When I finally got the courage to end it I cursed myself for not doing it sooner." —Inspector
"I have been feeling like this for about 1.5 years. Waiting for someone to 'mess up' or for the 'right time' is not the way to go. Unfortunately, I was the one who 'messed up' and cheated." —ToiletMeadows
"I was dating a girl for nearly a year. Towards the end I realized it was just not what I wanted. Then her dog died. Can't break up with her when she's that upset, right? Then the dog had to be put down. Well, don't be an asshole and dump a girl right after her beloved dog goes to doggy heaven....right? Then she simultaneously dislocates both shoulders (no...really....I'm not making this up. She had excess collagen that caused issues with ligaments). Can't dump a girl when she's post-op and doped up right? Well...I did." —hexpirate
"I broke up with a guy I was in a relationship with for 2 years. He asked me why but I couldn't come up with a proper response (I didn't think "we grew apart" was a good enough reason) so we tried working things out.We stayed together for few more months but it was the worst. At first it was OK, but after a while it was the same thing that made me want to break up with him in the first place. I dreaded having to go see him, ignored his calls, etc. I finally decided that acting like nothing was wrong wasn't fair for him and made a clean break." —mochacafe
"As someone on the other side of this. Yes 'we grew apart' is a perfectly acceptable reason." —possiblylefthanded

Have you ever felt breakup guilt? How many of you were involved a breakup when nothing was specifically wrong with the relationship?

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