Showing posts with label Dating Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating Advice. Show all posts

LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

Accountability to someone reveals our flaws faster than we can imagine....
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For every relationship with the long term in view, not those with short term benefits of ‘sex and romance’  that will only lead to trauma and devastation of the soul and body. At the long run, the importance of accountability cannot be undermined. This is because, even as humans, we tend to be at our best behavior when we know there's someone watching or we are likely to give a report of every activity we engage in.

One of the things youths dislike in this present day is being answerable to someone. We are so much in a quest for freedom that freedom itself seeks ‘freedom’ from us.

8 Things Women really want from Men

A woman really doesn’t want much from a man. There are really only eight things – eight qualities that she’s looking for in a life partner. Although these qualities are hard to find, they are qualities of which every man is capable. These seven things are not out of any man’s reach, yet the fact is that most lack at least one.

Now, you may like to argue that no one is perfect and therefore no one has all seven of these qualities, but that’s just not true. There are plenty of men out there who are sufficient in each of these categories, not perfectly, but sufficient enough to make a woman incredibly happy. That’s all that matters!

1. Honesty – but not too much of it.
A woman doesn’t want a man to lie to her about important matters. She wants to be an important part of his life – the most important part, in fact. She wants to know the things that are going on his life and she wants him to have trust in her. As far as she is concerned, they are one – his life is her life.

She wants him to want to share in his pleasant experiences and memories. She also doesn’t want him to feel that he has to lie. On the other hand, she doesn’t want the truth in all circumstances. Brutal honesty isn’t wanted.

If she asks, she looks great, she looks beautiful, the fact she gained 15 pounds doesn’t bother you, her new haircut makes her look even cuter. Now that I think about it, the only thing you should really lie is about such shallow matters as appearances. We all look like sh*t sometimes – but she doesn’t need to hear you say it.

2. Be strict with her at times. She needs to know you are in control not her.

When it comes to choice making for her, she realy want you to be strict. I mean you cant just allow her to go anywhere, wear anything, walk with anybody or do anyhow. Many women have even taken some men's gentleness for granted.

She really wanna see the hard and angry part of you in a caring way. With that, she can feel secure of not misbehaving while you are away. Leaving her with the fear of her knowing what you will do wen she misbehaves is enough.

3. Understanding – so that she doesn’t feel the need to have to explain herself.
She wants you to know her – inside and out. Why? Because only then will you love her for her. We all sometimes need confirmation that we’re worth loving. The real us – not the people others perceive us to be. We may not all need such a confirmation of our value, but we all want it. But it’s more than just that.

5 Ways To Prepare Yourself For Relationship.

Let's face it, everyone wants to find someone special. We all want to share our magical journeys with someone we love, honor, and respect.
I don't know about you, but it seems lately everyone I know is either getting engaged, married, or about to have children. Being a recently-single individual, it can be challenging at times. Personally, I believe there is more than one Mr. or Ms. Right out there for us, which increases the odds tenfold to find that someone special.
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Many who are single want to find someone special. But are they prepared? Preparing for love is an incredibly arduous journey of self-discovery, character building, and awareness. It is definitely the road less traveled, but so worthwhile in the end.
Here are five ways to prepare for finding one of the loves of your life;

1. Re-Learn Yourself
Have an honest conversation with yourself about your past relationships and your feelings toward love. Know what type of persons attract you and why. Are they naughty or nice? Or if they make you think twice?
Learning your patterns and behaviors within relationships is of vital importance. You must recognize your role(s), ground yourself in reality, and use this awareness when stepping forward into the unknown. Otherwise, you will fall into the same old patterns, continue to make the same old choices, and yield the same old results.
That's why awareness is key. This time, it will be different. Just be conscious of who you are.

2. Elevate the Space
Drama no more! That will be your new meditation, or positive self-talk.

3 PRINCIPLES OF DATING READINESS.

For many teens and youths of today's century, loving, dating, break-up and all sort has been the normal. From wanting a feeling of care and affection to wanting to be secure and so on. Many still did not know the reason and purpose of dating. That's why many felt heartbroken after months or years of commitment to the wrong thing.

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One of my adored writer and model, Late Myles Munroe, in his book "WAITING AND DATING" highlighted three principles to stand upon when ready for a dating which you envisage will lead to marriage.

1. BE AWARE OF THE BENEFITS AND DANGER:
Dating should be an opportunity to know someone the more and be closer to them.
Many never thought of the dangers involved in going into an emotional commitment to someone before actually starting. As much as there there are benefits of going into the dating zone, there are dangers to watch out for too.
Did you know if you are ready psychologically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally? Are you ready to be committed and accept the person for who they are?
The dangerous part of it is now getting committed too much and it doesn't work out at the long run. Many have turned themselves into a victim of 5years dating and they felt like, they can never love again.
No, there is still time and chance to love again.

7 TYPES OF MEN YOU SHOULD THINK TWICE BEFORE DATING.

We all want to find a great partner, so why do so many of us end up dating not-so-good ones along the way? No need to blame yourself: Hindsight may be 20/20, but spotting someone with baggage and issues isn't always easy in the moment. And it's especially not easy when he's pulling out all of his charms over a glass (or several glasses) of wine at a swanky local bar. We talked to family therapist Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, and Carlen Costa, Ph.D, a sexologist and therapist in Toronto, Canada, to find out which guys you should strongly consider ruling out from the get go. Here are the seven types to watch for:
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1. Just Out of a Relationship Guy: He's on the market again, but that doesn't necessarily mean he's ready—especially if he's the one who's been dumped. "Usually when people jump into the next relationship, they haven't done the work to grow themselves from that space, [or] to ready themselves for the next relationship," says Pharaon. "You want to make sure that person has some time in between the previous relationship to actually be a human."

2. Gets Really Angry Really Quickly Guy: When a guy's reactions are consistently overboard for what's appropriate, it's a big red flag. "I think most of us have an idea of what would be an appropriate response to something and of course we all get angry from time to time, but people who get super angry, you want to stay away from that," Pharaon says

Making Your Relationship Work.

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"Commitment" is considered to be a very important and mature aspect of a man woman relationship. It is considered to be the culmination of a love relationship between two individuals which signifies that the people involved in the relationship love, sacrifice, understand and are ready to spend their whole life with each other. Commitment basically means a decision making procedure in a person's life where he/she chooses the person he/she loves most as a life partner. Commitment needs to be displayed by both the individuals to make any sense of the word. The benefits of a committed relationship are many as it gives your life stability, resilience and belief making it healthy and beautiful.

IMPORTANT ADVICE TO THE LADIES.

Since I couldn't come up with something fast this morning, thought giving advice to those who will care for it will be just perfect.

Below are my factual and real advice to the ladies that care for it;

1. Note that there are many guys out there who just want to
use and dump you. Don't just accept a guy because he is a
fine boy. I know that some of you girls easily fall for handsome
guys. The devil is also handsome. So be careful.


2. I also know that you ladies can easily be deceived with sweet
words and sweet lies. You ought to be wise. Do not allow
sweet words move you. Don't believe a guy's sweet words until
he proves it to you beyond reasonable doubt.

6 Early warning signs of an abusive relationship.

It feels good to love and to be loved. However, no matter how good it feels, falling in love can also cause you so much pain. Even if you find the right person, relationships have ups and downs. After all, sacrifices and sufferings can sometimes lead to stronger, better relationships. However, there’s a thin line between these sacrifices and abusive relationships.

When you are madly, deeply, in love, you fail to see your partners’ bad traits. Or even if you do,  sometimes, you just accept them. It can start with a small fight and then it will lead to bigger fights with vulgar and insulting words. The next thing you know, you ended up as a human punching bag!

See, you won’t be abused if you won’t let other people abuse you. How to find out if your sweet, romantic relationship will end up being an abusive one? Check these early warning signs of an abusive relationship:

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1. If he disrespects his exes and even, you..!
A true gentleman will never talk against or even about his past relationships. He has this concept of “past is past” and won’t let it affect his present relationship. Of course, a true gentleman will not disrespect his partner or any other person!
Well, yeah, I know.. Not everyone is a true gentleman. But a man who disrespects his exes, you, or even other women, has a huge tendency of becoming an abuser.

2. Your partner is jealous, possessive, and self centered.
So it’s all about him huh? What he feels? What he sees? What he does? No! It shouldn’t be that way. A relationship is composed of two individuals – that means you and him! He should always include you in the equation and consider your feelings, too.
And let me clear this out, if your partner is possessive, that doesn’t mean he loves you a lot. In fact, if he loves you that much, he should trust you.

You Dont Need A Reason To end A Relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship that wasn't quite right, but there was no one major thing wrong? So, perhaps, you held on and stayed with that person, only to end it later?
As I read online, They've been discussing the idea of breakup guilt on a thread titled "PSA: You can break up with someone for any reason, or for no reason at all. You don't have to have a 'good reason' to end a relationship."
"I've seen SO many ladies torturing themselves for years in unhappy relationships because they don't have a 'good reason' to leave," writes a user, MissPredicament, who started the thread. "There is value in sticking it out in a relationship, in trying to make it work...until it becomes a horrible endurance exercise in tolerating awfulness. I wish someone had told me when I was much younger that I didn't have to have an airtight legal case for a breakup—all I had to have was a desire to no longer be in that relationship. I would have saved myself a lot of time."

Here's what some other responders had to say:
"Not having a reason to stay is a good reason to leave." —AnxiousReader
"I wasted most of my 20s being absolutely miserable in a relationship. When I finally got the courage to end it I cursed myself for not doing it sooner." —Inspector
"I have been feeling like this for about 1.5 years. Waiting for someone to 'mess up' or for the 'right time' is not the way to go. Unfortunately, I was the one who 'messed up' and cheated." —ToiletMeadows
"I was dating a girl for nearly a year. Towards the end I realized it was just not what I wanted. Then her dog died. Can't break up with her when she's that upset, right? Then the dog had to be put down. Well, don't be an asshole and dump a girl right after her beloved dog goes to doggy heaven....right? Then she simultaneously dislocates both shoulders (no...really....I'm not making this up. She had excess collagen that caused issues with ligaments). Can't dump a girl when she's post-op and doped up right? Well...I did." —hexpirate
"I broke up with a guy I was in a relationship with for 2 years. He asked me why but I couldn't come up with a proper response (I didn't think "we grew apart" was a good enough reason) so we tried working things out.We stayed together for few more months but it was the worst. At first it was OK, but after a while it was the same thing that made me want to break up with him in the first place. I dreaded having to go see him, ignored his calls, etc. I finally decided that acting like nothing was wrong wasn't fair for him and made a clean break." —mochacafe
"As someone on the other side of this. Yes 'we grew apart' is a perfectly acceptable reason." —possiblylefthanded

Have you ever felt breakup guilt? How many of you were involved a breakup when nothing was specifically wrong with the relationship?

7 signs that makes her think its over

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Women are super sensitive when it comes to their relationship and hence, they take note of very simple and subtle things men would otherwise not pay attention to. This are not confirmations thou, but it might be a pointer. Despite the fact that you don’t indulge in obvious things such as cheating, forgetting an anniversary date and not respecting her enough, there are some things that you may do that she takes as signs that you’re drawing away from her.

Take a look at 7 Things you may be doing that may make you become single sooner than you think.

1. You Don’t Maintain Eye Contact
Women naturally believe that when men maintain eye contact with them, there is a form of intimacy and connection. This doesn’t mean you have

Avoid Mistakes While Making Your Online Dating Profile.



Online dating has developed the way we meet up new and interesting people. Some men get it harder to meet quality women through online dating then through traditional sources even as others seem to get all the girls. Today I wanted to put together a list of the ten biggest mistakes to avoid with your profile online daters, This post share by http://blackdatingsite.co.uk

1. Not uploading a photo profile
Without uploading a photo, you aren’t going to get a women looking at your profile. Uploading a photo is a big turnoff.

2. Uploading pictures without you in them
Don’t need to post photos of your vacation without you in them. Also stop posting pictures of yours where others can’t see what you like in the picture.

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3. Writing a negative online dating profile
Negativity is a big turnoff for anybody. Don’t tell the world that you have been hurt in a relationship. Feeling lonely is not a way to attract women into your life. Remember, everything about you is fantastic!

4. Incomplete profile
The more you tell people about yourself, the greater your chance of finding a match, and if you are not doing your part in filling out your profile you can’t blame female online daters for skipping over your profile. So fill in all the questions that they ask, it will improve your chances!

5. Dishonest about yourself
Avoid lying about your age or job, if you want to know how to get a girlfriend through online dating the answer is simple. Be yourself.

6. Trying to be over sexy
You are only going to attract the wrong sort of attention, if you are overtly sexual in your profile. Trying to be over sexy will not attract the guys looking for a serious relationship.

7. Keep your profile short and to the point

Women won’t scan past the first couple paragraphs generally which means you have roughly 2 paragraphs to sell yourself so make them count. Make your paragraphs very short.

8. Posting obscene or in any way offensive jokes or images
A woman is looking at your profile to find out about you, if they wanted to read a joke there are plenty of websites online with hundreds of them.

9. Stop sending a message with a boring subject
Women with good online profiles get lots of winks and messages every day. In your subject give her a reason line to open your message first!

10. Choose a good user name
Remember that your user name says a lot about you, so choose it wisely.

Five Red Flags for Christians Blinded by Romance

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Here’s your sign! You’re in a bad relationship if…

1…there is abuse in your midst.
It’s such a common thing that either you’ve heard of it or are caught up in it yourself! What is it? It is the seemingly endless habit many couples have in which they will fight and makeup on a regular basis. Sure! It makes for great movies, but what works for a 90-minute Hollywood hit is a no-go in the real world. When it comes to making up, don’t misunderstand me. It’s perfectly healthy to forgive, but it’s not OK to be unwise. What I mean is this:

ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG TYPE?

You’ve probably heard the famous quote by Albert Einstein that says, “Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”
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Given that definition, plenty of people might want to get a mental health check-up. Why? Because lots of men and women are attracted to potential partners they’re pretty sure are wrong for them—confirmed by a history of failed relationships—but convince themselves that “This time it’s going to be different!”
Sure, it could be … but probably not.
We see it all the time: otherwise sharp, insightful individuals who fall for someone who is clearly (that is, clearly to friends, family members, and other objective people) not the kind of person who will make for a long-term, well-matched, soul-mate-quality partner.
Why do people keep falling in love for all the wrong reasons? At the risk of oversimplifying a complex dynamic, consider four prevalent possibilities:

1. Inadequate self-understanding. People who find themselves in one unsuccessful relationship after another usually do not know themselves well. They haven’t done much introspection, reflection, and self-evaluation—and therefore, they aren’t clear about what kind of person would make a good match. If you want to select a superb partner, the place to start is with a careful understanding of exactly who you are. The more you know about

Kissing Is Not Communicating.

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After reading a section of a book titled 'Boys Meet Girls, say Hello to courtship', I find the 'More than just talking' aspect amusing and interesting. As it was written, communication is not such a simple thing as we all see it to be. Even the best relationships have times

ONLINE DATING (Boudaries and digit exchange).

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Most of us are quite seasoned in the online dating world. Regardless of which site (or sites) you’re on, you deal with the same types of issues.  There are countless inappropriate requests that come in, so how do you weed them out? Well, you just have to do it. Regardless of how clear you are in your profile you will still get outrageous requests and stupid messages.  But, in general, most people are polite.  What I’ve noticed recently is that a lot of guys are skipping to giving their telephone number pretty much right away and wanting to navigate away from the site and onto texting. Some even asked for Facebook account … yup, seriously.  So what is appropriate and what isn’t when you’re first chatting online?

Online Dating Boundaries

It’s important to remember that stranger danger is REAL!.  You may think you know all about the person you’re chatting with.  They seem nice enough, but you are only seeing what they want you to see.  You know absolutely nothing about them or their lifestyle.  Sometimes it’s obvious that they are a tool … but more often than not it’s not obvious.  So you have to set your boundaries almost immediately when you’re chatting online and before you’ve met someone in person and decided to move further.

5 Ways to Know If Someone You Met Online is a Fraud

So, to get back to the real business, here are some red flags that you need to be on the lookout for when you want to establish if they’re a fraud or not:

1. It’s in the way they describe themselves in their profile and the pic itself

Seriously, you just need to take a closer look. What do they describe themselves as? Their physical description of themselves should be rational. An athlete with a “plush” body, really? The best way to establish if they really look like what they say they do is to ask them to send you a picture where they’re holding a specific item, or even something that is hand written, close to their body. The other thing that should be setting off alarms is professional photos used for profile pics, unless off course they really are a model. A seriously cool tool to use is Google Goggles, where you can see if the photo they sent you has been used anywhere else online. If they’re using someone else’s pictures and posting them as their own, the warning bells should be very loud by now.

2. Their profile seems a little “cut and pasty”

Try using plagiarism scanners to see if his “introduction letter” online has been used anywhere else or by anyone else. You should be able to spot a phony immediately based on this.

RESPONDING TO A FLIRT



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You're at the corner of a room , doing some mindless chore when suddenly you find yourself face-to-face with a little cutie who's gazing back at you with that glassy, wide-eyed look that all us guys with one track minds love to see. You smile and make some ridiculous remark about something totally pointless, but she lights up anyway and gives you a rockin' return smile like mumu she be. You might even get a flash of that doe-eyed, "take me" look

7 Clear Signs You And Your Partner Aren’t Meant To Be Together

People end up broken hearted after envisioning all the things they could have done with their partners simply because they refuse to see these signs – from the obvious to subtle ones

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Inspired by All Women Stalk, here are 7 signs