LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

Accountability to someone reveals our flaws faster than we can imagine....
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For every relationship with the long term in view, not those with short term benefits of ‘sex and romance’  that will only lead to trauma and devastation of the soul and body. At the long run, the importance of accountability cannot be undermined. This is because, even as humans, we tend to be at our best behavior when we know there's someone watching or we are likely to give a report of every activity we engage in.

One of the things youths dislike in this present day is being answerable to someone. We are so much in a quest for freedom that freedom itself seeks ‘freedom’ from us.

TIPS: 7 ways of starting a conversation with a lady Online.

42% of online female daters have been contacted by someone in a way that made them feel uncomfortable, and if you ask us, that’s one too many.

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If you want to avoid being Creepy, here are 11 good ways (tested by science!) to start a conversation with a girl online.

 7. Keep Your Subject Line and Message Short:
 The subject line of your email or message is probably the most important part of starting a conversation with a girl online. If this doesn’t peak her interest, she most likely won’t read any further.
A study by Sidekick says the perfect subject line is unique to the recipient and has 30 characters or less, just to name a few suggestions.
Same goes for the entire message in general — keep it short!

 6. “Hi”, “Hey”, or “Hello”: The Kiss of Death
 If you want to be the most boring, unoriginal person who has ever reached out to this woman, then simply say “Hi, how are you?” While it may seem like a polite thing to ask, she isn’t the pizza delivery guy — she’s someone you have romantic feelings for.
''Whats up?'' can be a better option.

7 Ways to Friendzone a Guy!!!

Mind you, this is applicale to girls too.

Okay, so you know this guy and he is a REALLY great guy- but he’s just simply not your type. He makes a great friend, but you don’t want to take it any further. Unfortunately, he’s hinting that he may want something more than friendship. What is a girl to do? You don’t want to break his heart and be known as the evil girl who leads people on, but you also don’t want to force yourself into a relationship you don’t want. Well, here’s 7 ways to friendzone a guy- all nice and simple ways that won’t hurt anyone (too badly).

1. Don’t Lead Him On

It may seem obvious, but DON’T LEAD HIM ON. We all love to get attention from the opposite sex, but if you’re indulging in his flirtatious habits or even playing back a bit, you’re only leading him on- and that’s going to seriously upset him in the long run (can’t blame him). Do not flirt with him, and when he flirts with you, don’t even engage in it. Change the subject!

2. Talk About Other Men
If you really like a guy, you’re not going to talk about other guys to him- everyone knows that, it’s like a rule or something. That being said, talk about men with this guy you consider as just a friend. Let him know which guy you are interested in or what men around you think are good looking. This will show him that you are actively seeking a relationship with SOMEONE ELSE other than him, and don’t mind him knowing that you’re checking out other guys while the two of you are together.

3. Don’t Go on Any ‘Date-Like’ Events
Of course the two of you are friends so you’re going to hang out, but refrain from anything that’s a little to ‘date-like’, like a fancy dinner with just the two of you. If it’s something casual or something where there will be multiple of your guys’ mutual friends around, that of course is okay and go have fun! (Just don’t be standing next to him the entire time- he might get the wrong idea that you are, in fact, his date for the occasion!)

4. Let Him See Your ‘Bad Qualities’
I know, you don’t want to admit it- but you have bad qualities. We all do! Your FRIEND should see these bad qualities. I mean, the two of you are just friends, so you really shouldn’t hesitate to hold anything back like you would in a relationship with a guy you’re very interested in. Friends don’t judge, so go ahead and be one hundred percent real with him. All things positive and all things negative- nothing is off limits, just be you.

Things i've larned from failed relationships.

Many times when a relationship ends, one of the only things that provide any sort of solace at all is the fact that, through the course of the courtship, you’ve learned things that contributed to it not ultimately working out—and that you can use this newfound knowledge to improve your next relationship. (This is, of course, considering you ever recover enough to pursue another romantic interest and stop sobbing on the couch while you chug Johnnie Walker and listen to Elliott Smith.)

Like, for example, after my last relationship imploded, I learned that you can’t be a pushover if you really want a relationship to work. You may think it's a good idea to fawn all over someone and pretty much let them have their way without your ever doing or even saying anything about it, but if you do that, eventually one of two things will happen: (1) They’ll grow tired not being challenged and decide to move on without you, or (2) You’ll snap and call things off yourself.
But that's just my experience...so I asked a bunch of guys to tell us what they’ve learned from the failings of past relationships.
1. “I learned to never, ever say something like, ‘I’d probably be better off without you’ to someone you love. It won’t end well.”—Nathaniel W.

2. “You have to pick your fights. My ex and I were so, so, so stubborn about pretty much everything—probably especially about the littler things, and after a while that broke us, I think. When we weren’t arguing about something, it was like we were walking on egg shells trying not to say or do the thing that would launch us into the next fight. I definitely learned that while you’re never going to always agree with the person you’re with, you should really make an effort to only fight over things when they really matter. If you take a step back and really think about things before you start screaming, I think it’ll help.” —Casey F.

5 Ways To Prepare Yourself For Relationship.

Let's face it, everyone wants to find someone special. We all want to share our magical journeys with someone we love, honor, and respect.
I don't know about you, but it seems lately everyone I know is either getting engaged, married, or about to have children. Being a recently-single individual, it can be challenging at times. Personally, I believe there is more than one Mr. or Ms. Right out there for us, which increases the odds tenfold to find that someone special.

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Many who are single want to find someone special. But are they prepared? Preparing for love is an incredibly arduous journey of self-discovery, character building, and awareness. It is definitely the road less traveled, but so worthwhile in the end.
Here are five ways to prepare for finding one of the loves of your life;

1. Re-Learn Yourself
Have an honest conversation with yourself about your past relationships and your feelings toward love. Know what type of persons attract you and why. Are they naughty or nice? Or if they make you think twice?
Learning your patterns and behaviors within relationships is of vital importance. You must recognize your role(s), ground yourself in reality, and use this awareness when stepping forward into the unknown. Otherwise, you will fall into the same old patterns, continue to make the same old choices, and yield the same old results.
That's why awareness is key. This time, it will be different. Just be conscious of who you are.

2. Elevate the Space
Drama no more! That will be your new meditation, or positive self-talk.

3 PRINCIPLES OF DATING READINESS.

For many teens and youths of today's century, loving, dating, break-up and all sort has been the normal. From wanting a feeling of care and affection to wanting to be secure and so on. Many still did not know the reason and purpose of dating. That's why many felt heartbroken after months or years of commitment to the wrong thing.

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One of my adored writer and model, Late Myles Munroe, in his book "WAITING AND DATING" highlighted three principles to stand upon when ready for a dating which you envisage will lead to marriage.

1. BE AWARE OF THE BENEFITS AND DANGER:
Dating should be an opportunity to know someone the more and be closer to them.
Many never thought of the dangers involved in going into an emotional commitment to someone before actually starting. As much as there there are benefits of going into the dating zone, there are dangers to watch out for too.
Did you know if you are ready psychologically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally? Are you ready to be committed and accept the person for who they are?
The dangerous part of it is now getting committed too much and it doesn't work out at the long run. Many have turned themselves into a victim of 5years dating and they felt like, they can never love again.
No, there is still time and chance to love again.

The Underrated Quality in the Dating World

Based on a quick glance at magazine covers, it seems like there are certain qualities everyone's looking for in a mate. Nail the perfect combo of good looks, quick wit, and career success and you've got the perfect formula for attracting a partner, right?
Well, it's partly true: Research shows these aspects (physical appearance, humor, and ambition) are certainly attractive to potential romantic partners. But it turns out, a bit of benevolence may be what your dating game’s missing. One large-scale study found that more than 10,000 men and women from around the globe consider kindness—yes, kindness—to be one of the most important qualities in a romantic partner.
Here’s why your reflection, your paycheck, and where you stand in the social pecking order can’t hold a candle to the quality of your character.

Why Kindness Matters Most

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Numerous studies corroborate the appeal of kindness. Even small gestures, such as giving a stranger a flower, lending a close friend an ear, or simply doing someone a favor (like carrying their groceries), can enhance our likeability and increase others’ willingness to commit to us.

Making Your Relationship Work.

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"Commitment" is considered to be a very important and mature aspect of a man woman relationship. It is considered to be the culmination of a love relationship between two individuals which signifies that the people involved in the relationship love, sacrifice, understand and are ready to spend their whole life with each other. Commitment basically means a decision making procedure in a person's life where he/she chooses the person he/she loves most as a life partner. Commitment needs to be displayed by both the individuals to make any sense of the word. The benefits of a committed relationship are many as it gives your life stability, resilience and belief making it healthy and beautiful.

5 Traits to Check for Before You Marry Her.

1. Mature and Confident. 
There is nothing hotter than a woman who is confident and commands attention. A woman who is in control of her emotions but is dedicated, puts her heart in whatever she does. She should know how to make time for you and your future family despite her busy schedule. Someone who isn’t insecure and isn’t jealous all the time. A man is willing to work hard for their woman but it would be a bother if you know she’ll be up in your face every time you work with other women or spend a few extra hours in the office. 


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2. A Heart To Come Home To.
After a long tiring day of work you would need some comfort to alleviate all of that stress. Someone you can be with to surely brighten up your day and would always lend  the support/strength you need. As the cliché goes, “Home is where the heart is.”

6 Early warning signs of an abusive relationship.

It feels good to love and to be loved. However, no matter how good it feels, falling in love can also cause you so much pain. Even if you find the right person, relationships have ups and downs. After all, sacrifices and sufferings can sometimes lead to stronger, better relationships. However, there’s a thin line between these sacrifices and abusive relationships.

When you are madly, deeply, in love, you fail to see your partners’ bad traits. Or even if you do,  sometimes, you just accept them. It can start with a small fight and then it will lead to bigger fights with vulgar and insulting words. The next thing you know, you ended up as a human punching bag!

See, you won’t be abused if you won’t let other people abuse you. How to find out if your sweet, romantic relationship will end up being an abusive one? Check these early warning signs of an abusive relationship:

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1. If he disrespects his exes and even, you..!
A true gentleman will never talk against or even about his past relationships. He has this concept of “past is past” and won’t let it affect his present relationship. Of course, a true gentleman will not disrespect his partner or any other person!
Well, yeah, I know.. Not everyone is a true gentleman. But a man who disrespects his exes, you, or even other women, has a huge tendency of becoming an abuser.

2. Your partner is jealous, possessive, and self centered.
So it’s all about him huh? What he feels? What he sees? What he does? No! It shouldn’t be that way. A relationship is composed of two individuals – that means you and him! He should always include you in the equation and consider your feelings, too.
And let me clear this out, if your partner is possessive, that doesn’t mean he loves you a lot. In fact, if he loves you that much, he should trust you.

Understanding "FIRST LOVES"

First loves are wonderful, exciting, passionate and confusing. Whether or not they last, first loves have a sweetness all their own.

The Bloom of Youth

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For many of us, first love happens when we're in our teens. We've only just discovered these feelings, and we're thrilled by the idea of romance. Sex is something brand new, too, waiting to be explored. It seems that the whole world is ahead of us.
Young love is about passion, energy, even rebellion-think Romeo and Juliet. Sometimes, we don't even know the other person very well: we're both caught up in the idea of being in love. The luckiest couples do become fast friends as well as lovers. Many a happy marriage began with a young first love.

Older First Loves

Not everyone meets their first love when they're young, though. If you've never felt that rush of passion, don't worry. It can take years, even most of a lifetime, to connect with the person who will become your first love. There are stories of people in their 70's falling in love-real, true love-for the very first time.

You Dont Need A Reason To end A Relationship.

Have you ever been in a relationship that wasn't quite right, but there was no one major thing wrong? So, perhaps, you held on and stayed with that person, only to end it later?

As I read online, They've been discussing the idea of breakup guilt on a thread titled "PSA: You can break up with someone for any reason, or for no reason at all. You don't have to have a 'good reason' to end a relationship."

"I've seen SO many ladies torturing themselves for years in unhappy relationships because they don't have a 'good reason' to leave," writes a user, MissPredicament, who started the thread. "There is value in sticking it out in a relationship, in trying to make it work...until it becomes a horrible endurance exercise in tolerating awfulness. I wish someone had told me when I was much younger that I didn't have to have an airtight legal case for a breakup—all I had to have was a desire to no longer be in that relationship. I would have saved myself a lot of time."

Here's what some other responders had to say:
"Not having a reason to stay is a good reason to leave." —AnxiousReader
"I wasted most of my 20s being absolutely miserable in a relationship. When I finally got the courage to end it I cursed myself for not doing it sooner." —Inspector
"I have been feeling like this for about 1.5 years. Waiting for someone to 'mess up' or for the 'right time' is not the way to go. Unfortunately, I was the one who 'messed up' and cheated." —ToiletMeadows
"I was dating a girl for nearly a year. Towards the end I realized it was just not what I wanted. Then her dog died. Can't break up with her when she's that upset, right? Then the dog had to be put down. Well, don't be an asshole and dump a girl right after her beloved dog goes to doggy heaven....right? Then she simultaneously dislocates both shoulders (no...really....I'm not making this up. She had excess collagen that caused issues with ligaments). Can't dump a girl when she's post-op and doped up right? Well...I did." —hexpirate
"I broke up with a guy I was in a relationship with for 2 years. He asked me why but I couldn't come up with a proper response (I didn't think "we grew apart" was a good enough reason) so we tried working things out.We stayed together for few more months but it was the worst. At first it was OK, but after a while it was the same thing that made me want to break up with him in the first place. I dreaded having to go see him, ignored his calls, etc. I finally decided that acting like nothing was wrong wasn't fair for him and made a clean break." —mochacafe
"As someone on the other side of this. Yes 'we grew apart' is a perfectly acceptable reason." —possiblylefthanded

Have you ever felt breakup guilt? How many of you were involved a breakup when nothing was specifically wrong with the relationship?

5 Things to Know Before You Enter a Relationship.

1. Know your worth.

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Far too often we stay in relationships that are less than gratifying because we don’t value ourselves. A fundamental change occurs once you realize what your worth and what you deserve from a partner. Once you start believing that you deserve something deeply fulfilling, you will never settle for anything less.Any effort to try and cheapen your value will be futile. The tide will have changed. Not only will you start respecting yourself, others will recognize this and respect you in return.

2. Know how to love with an open heart.

This is particularly difficult for me because I am so protective of my heart. It’s a defense mechanism that served me as a child, but it has hindered my ability to get close to people as an adult in recent time.Loving with an open heart means embracing vulnerability.

Avoid Mistakes While Making Your Online Dating Profile.

 

Online dating has developed the way we meet up new and interesting people. Some men get it harder to meet quality women through online dating then through traditional sources even as others seem to get all the girls. Today I wanted to put together a list of the ten biggest mistakes to avoid with your profile online daters, This post share by http://blackdatingsite.co.uk

1. Not uploading a photo profile
Without uploading a photo, you aren’t going to get a women looking at your profile. Uploading a photo is a big turnoff.

2. Uploading pictures without you in them
Don’t need to post photos of your vacation without you in them. Also stop posting pictures of yours where others can’t see what you like in the picture.

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3. Writing a negative online dating profile
Negativity is a big turnoff for anybody. Don’t tell the world that you have been hurt in a relationship. Feeling lonely is not a way to attract women into your life. Remember, everything about you is fantastic!

4. Incomplete profile
The more you tell people about yourself, the greater your chance of finding a match, and if you are not doing your part in filling out your profile you can’t blame female online daters for skipping over your profile. So fill in all the questions that they ask, it will improve your chances!

5. Dishonest about yourself
Avoid lying about your age or job, if you want to know how to get a girlfriend through online dating the answer is simple. Be yourself.

6. Trying to be over sexy
You are only going to attract the wrong sort of attention, if you are overtly sexual in your profile. Trying to be over sexy will not attract the guys looking for a serious relationship.

7. Keep your profile short and to the point
Women won’t scan past the first couple paragraphs generally which means you have roughly 2 paragraphs to sell yourself so make them count. Make your paragraphs very short.

8. Posting obscene or in any way offensive jokes or images
A woman is looking at your profile to find out about you, if they wanted to read a joke there are plenty of websites online with hundreds of them.

9. Stop sending a message with a boring subject
Women with good online profiles get lots of winks and messages every day. In your subject give her a reason line to open your message first!

10. Choose a good user name
Remember that your user name says a lot about you, so choose it wisely.

Five Red Flags for Christians Blinded by Romance

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Here’s your sign! You’re in a bad relationship if…

1…there is abuse in your midst.
It’s such a common thing that either you’ve heard of it or are caught up in it yourself! What is it? It is the seemingly endless habit many couples have in which they will fight and makeup on a regular basis. Sure! It makes for great movies, but what works for a 90-minute Hollywood hit is a no-go in the real world. When it comes to making up, don’t misunderstand me. It’s perfectly healthy to forgive, but it’s not OK to be unwise. What I mean is this:

ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG TYPE?

You’ve probably heard the famous quote by Albert Einstein that says, “Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”

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Given that definition, plenty of people might want to get a mental health check-up. Why? Because lots of men and women are attracted to potential partners they’re pretty sure are wrong for them—confirmed by a history of failed relationships—but convince themselves that “This time it’s going to be different!”
Sure, it could be … but probably not.
We see it all the time: otherwise sharp, insightful individuals who fall for someone who is clearly (that is, clearly to friends, family members, and other objective people) not the kind of person who will make for a long-term, well-matched, soul-mate-quality partner.
Why do people keep falling in love for all the wrong reasons? At the risk of oversimplifying a complex dynamic, consider four prevalent possibilities:

1. Inadequate self-understanding. People who find themselves in one unsuccessful relationship after another usually do not know themselves well. They haven’t done much introspection, reflection, and self-evaluation—and therefore, they aren’t clear about what kind of person would make a good match. If you want to select a superb partner, the place to start is with a careful understanding of exactly who you are. The more you know about

ONLINE DATING (Boudaries and digit exchange).

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Most of us are quite seasoned in the online dating world. Regardless of which site (or sites) you’re on, you deal with the same types of issues.  There are countless inappropriate requests that come in, so how do you weed them out? Well, you just have to do it. Regardless of how clear you are in your profile you will still get outrageous requests and stupid messages.  But, in general, most people are polite.  What I’ve noticed recently is that a lot of guys are skipping to giving their telephone number pretty much right away and wanting to navigate away from the site and onto texting. Some even asked for Facebook account … yup, seriously.  So what is appropriate and what isn’t when you’re first chatting online?

Online Dating Boundaries

It’s important to remember that stranger danger is REAL!.  You may think you know all about the person you’re chatting with.  They seem nice enough, but you are only seeing what they want you to see.  You know absolutely nothing about them or their lifestyle.  Sometimes it’s obvious that they are a tool … but more often than not it’s not obvious.  So you have to set your boundaries almost immediately when you’re chatting online and before you’ve met someone in person and decided to move further.

RESPONDING TO A FLIRT

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You're at the corner of a room , doing some mindless chore when suddenly you find yourself face-to-face with a little cutie who's gazing back at you with that glassy, wide-eyed look that all us guys with one track minds love to see. You smile and make some ridiculous remark about something totally pointless, but she lights up anyway and gives you a rockin' return smile like mumu she be. You might even get a flash of that doe-eyed, "take me" look

10 Subtle Signs He Has a Crush on You

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How do you know if a guy has a crush on you? You can never be certain unless he confesses right out, but there are some signs to look out for that will give you definite clues. Just make sure you aren’t interpreting them to suit your view, as opposed to what’s really the case!

 

He Wants to Spend Time With You

If he likes you, of course he wants to spend time with you! If he’s brave enough to show it is another thing entirely.

Dealing With A Crush That Doesnt Like You.

There is that moment no one wants to face – when you have to accept that your crush doesn’t like you. Whether it is because he just made it clear in the most embarrassing (for you) of all possible ways, or because he doesn’t respond to you flirting with him, or he started going out with someone else.

1. Cry a Little
Let it out. Take a day to feel sad about it. To analyze it. To do whatever you want.

2. Accept It
To be able to let something go you have to accept it. Some people get angry and want to fight it. They want to prove themselves to the guy. In other words,