6 Early warning signs of an abusive relationship.

It feels good to love and to be loved. However, no matter how good it feels, falling in love can also cause you so much pain. Even if you find the right person, relationships have ups and downs. After all, sacrifices and sufferings can sometimes lead to stronger, better relationships. However, there’s a thin line between these sacrifices and abusive relationships.

When you are madly, deeply, in love, you fail to see your partners’ bad traits. Or even if you do,  sometimes, you just accept them. It can start with a small fight and then it will lead to bigger fights with vulgar and insulting words. The next thing you know, you ended up as a human punching bag!

See, you won’t be abused if you won’t let other people abuse you. How to find out if your sweet, romantic relationship will end up being an abusive one? Check these early warning signs of an abusive relationship:

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1. If he disrespects his exes and even, you..!
A true gentleman will never talk against or even about his past relationships. He has this concept of “past is past” and won’t let it affect his present relationship. Of course, a true gentleman will not disrespect his partner or any other person!
Well, yeah, I know.. Not everyone is a true gentleman. But a man who disrespects his exes, you, or even other women, has a huge tendency of becoming an abuser.

2. Your partner is jealous, possessive, and self centered.
So it’s all about him huh? What he feels? What he sees? What he does? No! It shouldn’t be that way. A relationship is composed of two individuals – that means you and him! He should always include you in the equation and consider your feelings, too.
And let me clear this out, if your partner is possessive, that doesn’t mean he loves you a lot. In fact, if he loves you that much, he should trust you.

3.  He doesn’t want to talk.
Forget about him been an introvert; even introverts talk to their loved one. There’s no talking in an abusive relationship. It’s about blaming, screaming, shouting, and cursing. It’s not a scene that you would want to see or hear. Men who don’t want to talk are not open in hearing out your side. They will believe what they want to believe. Sometimes, they become paranoid and their paranoia will be the cause of physical or verbal abuse.

4.  He pushes you to do things you don’t want to do
If you don’t want to do something, he should never push you to do it. Well, unless if it’s something good for you like eating vegetables, exercising, or doing a house chore. Other than that, you should be able to be free in doing things you want. If you will let him get what he wants all the time, he will demand for it. What if you refuse? Then, it will not be acceptable for him and you’ll know what might happen next!
Another early sign of abuse is when your partner pushes you to make love, like all the time! You are not his slave. You have all the right to refuse if you don’t want to. And don’t ever fall for his emotional blackmail.  I tell you girlfriend, if you see this warning sign. Get out and pack your bags as soon as you can!

5. He abuses alcohol or drugs 
Drug addicts and alcoholics tend to be violent. If your man is under the influence of these substances, they are not thinking properly.  So, don’t be blinded by love when you figure out that your partner is a substance user or an alcoholic! It’s time to leave and save yourself!

6. He can’t control his temper
Most men don’t have emotional outlets like women. That’s why, most men can’t control their temper and convert their emotional outbursts to violence. If you see early signs like hurting animals, throwing things when he’s mad, punching the wall, etc., maybe it’s your time to go.
You need to understand that being abused isn’t only about being hurt physically. It can be verbally, emotionally, mentally, and sexually. Looking out for these signs can just help you save yourself from danger!