LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

Accountability to someone reveals our flaws faster than we can imagine....
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For every relationship with the long term in view, not those with short term benefits of ‘sex and romance’  that will only lead to trauma and devastation of the soul and body. At the long run, the importance of accountability cannot be undermined. This is because, even as humans, we tend to be at our best behavior when we know there's someone watching or we are likely to give a report of every activity we engage in.

One of the things youths dislike in this present day is being answerable to someone. We are so much in a quest for freedom that freedom itself seeks ‘freedom’ from us.
We want to do things our own way, at the time we want them. We want to walk in the path of least resistance; the one we derive the most pleasure from and be with whoever we choose at the time that suits us most without paying attention to what is expedient for that season of choosing.

If a love relationship will ever be meaningful and successful, there should be that ‘one  person’ that you or your partner to be, so to say, can go to for advice, help, guidance or counselling, or even to report of your wrong act or misbehavior. This is not to say that such an individual would act as Lord over your lives, telling you what to do at every point in time but rather, the major emphasis is in having a trusted individual, whose disposition about life is similar to yours and to an extent has the ability to mentor your relationship wisely.

It is important to understand that accountability to someone is not a guarantee that your love relationship will be a success  But it's worthy to note that there’s a higher possibility of achieving success and being fulfilled when there’s a FATHERLY or MOTHERLY figure by your side, nudging you and helping you through times you might want to waver in your commitment to purity and righteousness. A purposeful relationship is a journey that cannot be traveled alone, hence, there is the need to carry on board those who have your best interest at heart and would not hesitate to tell you the truth when you need to hear one.

Whoever you want to be accountable to must be someone you trust even with your darkest secrets. One who would not be to quick to judge your actions but will always respond from an angle of love.  Most times it is advisable that such an individual is married, having a kind of home you desire so you're able to follow because he or she would then be leading from a place of influence which is of course an important form of leadership.

If this hasn’t been discussed with your lover till now, I encourage you talk about it. Be deliberate about picking a mentor you both trust and you know will be sincere with you. It's important you learn the act of submission to authority, be willing to be corrected and learn all that is needed to enjoy a lasting and fulfilling relationship.

Edited by: Adurosakin Pelumi